Influenced: The Success 'Aesthetic'

From office jobs to online fame, how social media is redefining what success looks like.

A good job, a comfortable salary and eventually a house of your own once sounded like a successful life. Then social media handed us another version.

She works from her laptop, fits in 10am Pilates and spends summers in Europe, all from an immaculate city-centre apartment. Her hair is done, her fridge is stocked and PR packages seem to keep the skincare cupboard full.

Of course, most of us know social media is a highlight reel. The more interesting question is whether knowing that actually stops us comparing our own lives to it.

When the goalposts seem to move with every scroll, it leaves young women facing a much bigger question:

What does success actually look like today?

When did success gain an aesthetic?

After spending three years as a paralegal, Lucie Blackburn, 22, is now completing a solicitor apprenticeship in clinical negligence, working towards the career she has wanted since she was younger.

Qualifying will take years of training and hard work, and she knows exactly how much that achievement will mean to her.

Yet even with a clear career path of her own, social media has managed to move the goalposts.

“When I was younger, I was very driven to become a solicitor and that was always what I wanted to do,”

“Back then, I thought being successful meant having a good career, owning a house and being financially comfortable.”

Then came the endless window into other people's lives.

“You constantly see people having multiple holidays a year, huge houses, expensive cars and very luxurious lifestyles.

When that's what you're seeing online every day, a normal comfortable life can almost start to feel like it isn't enough.”

Lucie eventually deleted TikTok after becoming frustrated with the endless scrolling and what she describes as the unrealistic ideas circulating on the platform. She has no plans to trade legal briefs for brand briefs either; privacy matters to her, as does knowing the career she is building has some longevity.

“I've always wanted to become a solicitor, and I like that it's challenging,” she says. “When I eventually qualify, I'll see that as a massive personal achievement because it's something I've worked towards for such a long time.”

The influencer lifestyle hasn't made Lucie want to switch pathways. Instead, it has done something arguably more subtle - changed the lifestyle against which she measures her own success.

Credit: @lucieblackburnn Instagram

Credit: @lucieblackburnn Instagram

Credit: @lucieblackburnn Instagram

Credit: @lucieblackburnn Instagram

Lucie is far from alone in her opinions

In a survey created exclusively for the Influenced series, 65 women shared their views on social media, influencing and what success looks like today, with respondents varying in age, career and the amount of time they spend scrolling each day.

Swipe down to see what they had to say...

"Yes, because it seems easier and more enjoyable"

"Yes, it feels more freeing - Less trapped in corporate society/capitalism"

"I would, because not only would I be on the same salary, but it would offer me different opportunities, in different locations, brands, meet and connect with new people and share learning with each other"

"Yes, because I'd probably get to do less work"

"Yes, but I think it's extremely hard for the hate and judgement you receive"

"Yes, because it would be mentally and physically easier"

"Yes, it seems a much more luxurious lifestyle to the one I live now"

"No, I wouldn't like to be well known, prefer a private life"

"No, cause I don't want to be in the public eye"

"I couldn't take the pressure of it"

"I don't feel like i would gain the same level of job satisfaction that I get from my current position"

"No, because it is putting your private life on display for unknown people"

"No, there is no job security"

"No, I will not degrade myself"

"I'm not confident enough"

"No, because I don't feel like the social media market is a secure job. I would worry about making a career dependent on social media considering the revenue is not consistent"

"Too much pressure on being perfect"

"No, as it comes across as fake and shooting any moment for 'content' - some parts of life should not be online"

"Social media has hugely shaped society today, and with that changed my views on success and access to being wealthy. Whilst I believe social media has caused MANY problems, specifically for the younger generation, I believe it has given individuals access to a healthy lifestyle, easier access to money, and entertainment. My opinions differ greatly depending on context. I do not like social media in general or for society, mental health wise, but I do appreciate the opportunities it gives"

"I feel like I’m always chasing a level of success which is unattainable for many girls my age. I have to be fit, look a certain way, have enough clothes and earn money/travel at the same time. I feel like it has changed my view of success from money and smart decisions for my future into ‘having it all’ and the luxury lifestyle. Like why do I feel like I need 10 thousand medicube masks, the perfect heartless curls, holiday 2x a month, a flat in Ancoats, a gym bbl and a podcast to be successful?"

"If anything, it’s made me lose my work ethic/drive as I see people earn lots from doing little and it makes me question why i have to work a normal job and be paid peanuts"

"Seeing so many other girls succeed in it makes me want to earn money from doing what I love. It’s made me not want to settle for a job I’m not happy in"

"It motivates me to achieve everything I want. Other people have it so why can't I?"

"I think it has changed the way people see success, people may now see success as how many followers or brand deals for e.g. someone has, rather than their job status/if they are in a successful career"

"I think it has given me more respect for those working in healthcare etc. It also makes me jealous of the amount of work I have to put in just for minimum wage".

What emerged was not a mass desire to quit work and start filming GRWMs. When asked whether they would choose social media over their current career for the same income, respondents repeatedly valued privacy, routine, security and the ability to clock off.

Instead, many questioned why conventional work seemed to offer less than the lifestyles they saw online, with some feeling pressure to achieve more, earlier.

Maybe the aspiration isn't always “I want to be an influencer.”

It's “Why doesn't my success look like theirs?”

The internet loves to tell us anyone can make it. Dr Zari Taylor says the starting line was never quite that equal.

Dr Zari Taylor, scholar and assistant professor at New York University, has spent years studying digital culture, creator economies and the experiences of black women online, and she traces much of today's creator aspiration back to the moment TikTok exploded during the pandemic.

At a time of unemployment, economic uncertainty and hybrid work, users weren't simply watching creators anymore; they could watch ordinary people go viral and seemingly transform their lives in real time.

“When teenagers saw people like Charli D'Amelio and Addison Rae blow up on TikTok, dance online, get huge commercial deals and move to LA, I can imagine young women watching that and thinking, ‘Well, she can do that, I can do the same thing.’”

Pair that promise with growing dissatisfaction around traditional employment and the comparison becomes even harder to resist.

“If you're struggling in a nine-to-five and you see influencers on a brand trip in Barbados, you think, ‘Well, why am I not doing that?’”

But the idea that everybody begins with the same phone and the same chance of success is, Taylor argues, one of influencer culture's biggest illusions.

“Platforms also make it seem as though anyone can go viral: just pick up your phone, post and be yourself. But that's not true.”

Taylor's research examines how race, gender, beauty and economic privilege shape creator opportunities, but that this can also lead to creators being pigeonholed into particular sectors, overlooked for wider campaigns or offered less money.

There is also a gendered contradiction at the heart of it. Taylor points out that hugely successful male creators can graduate into being described as entrepreneurs or businessmen, while women achieving similar levels of commercial success often remain simply influencers.

Because influencing is so feminised, she says, the work behind it is easily dismissed: she's pretty -> she puts a camera up -> she gets paid.

Credit: archivingtheblackweb.org

Credit: archivingtheblackweb.org

ARE WE ACTUALLY INFLUENCED?

...probably more than we'd like to admit.

Lucie still wants to be a solicitor, whilst survey respondents repeatedly valued privacy and stability over internet fame. They knew the lifestyles on their feeds weren't always realistic, and yet they still compared.

Perhaps social media isn't just selling products, but a picture of what success should look like: money, freedom, holidays and the perfect lifestyle.

You don't have to want to be an influencer to be influenced.